I always thought it was unfair I was always buying my wife toys and none existed for me, so when I saw this I had to try it. Overall it is good and definitely gets the job done, but not perfect. One it is a lot bigger than you would think based on the pictures, it is actually big, bulky, and heavy. The weight of it makes "hands free" unrealistic. It takes some practice to find the sweet spot, but once you do I actually started laughing because I had no idea what I was feeling, the finish is explosive. It says you can use this flacid, but due to its size I would guess you have to be at least 5 inches to reach the portion that is actually doing the work. I suppose you could turn it around, but that would make holding this clunky thing more of a challenge. I am glad I got it, but women still have way better options.